Year End thoughts

As we near the end of yet another year a few notes for us to ponder:
1.Husband-wife relationship.
In the olden days ( not that old actually , during our time ) husbands and wives followed certain rules.The man was the breadwinner and traditionally the Head of the house.Being so, he was responsible to ensure that the family is well taken care of .He was responsible for all the household expenses and made sure that he made a financial allocation for the wife so that she had enough pocket money for herself.
What she earned ( if she was working ) is irrelevant ,it was the obligation of the man to share what he had with her.This was the marriage commitment .
Today most women are independent , some even earn more and are more capable professionally and intellectually than the husbands.This should not prevent the man from playing his traditional role.Spouses should be supportive of each other and should be pillars of strength for each other >They should under no circumstances be viewed as liabilities in the family unit.If one spouse turns out to be passive, unreliable and unable to contribute to family well being then he is a liability and the family can jolly well do better without him.
2. Communicating.
I have seen different kinds of people in my life time.Some are able to get their thoughts out to others effectively.Communicating is an art and generally most average people are able to talk. Mum is a great talker whilst I will only say what I need to say.that's why perhaps we are so compatible.In communication one must be able to talk sensibly and intelligently.Shouting especially at kids makes you so inferior because people who shout are unable to control themselves and do not realize what a spectacle they make of themselves .What irritates me most is when someone is eating with his head down on his food talking to you without even looking up.To me , the response is very simple when I come across such people ...just refuse to engage with them and ignore such rudeness.These kind of people do not know about body language and what role it plays in effective communication .
3.Proactive .
Some people are simply not aware or sensitive to environment.If we see a child climbing up a chair or playing with a dangerous toy we should be alert to the next step and take the necessary steps to counter it.that's why accidents happen and its basically due to the carelessness of people .Proactive people are always alert and always look one step ahead .If you are not so , obviously you are in a state of oblivion and will not be outstanding in the things you do.Like it or not , life is about planning and being able to look ahead .Sadly I have come across people who lack this .
4. Stubborn.
Some people cant change no matter what .I cant see how such people can progress in life.Granted, we all make mistakes but positive people learn from their mistakes and therein lies the path to self improvement.Some people never learn which makes me to say either they are stubborn ( in a very negative way), insensitive ,or just plain dumb.
With the coming of the end of the year we should reflect on the year gone by , look at our strength and weaknesses and simply make a promise to ourselves that we will strive to be a better person  in the new year.