Monday, December 28, 2015

If I am free

We need to take a step back and take a good look at our attitude.Too often we think of doing something for others only when we have the time or when and if it is convenient to us.If we ;have the right attitude , when someone needs our help we should make time and effort to help.That is sincerity and that is the kind of help which will go a long way. It makes me wonder if comes the time when we need help will there be anyone there for us ? We read , hear and see for ourselves the old folks who are dumped in Old Folks Home by their off springs with the excuse that they have no time for them as they are always busy .This is an example of people who fail to make an extra effort to do something and use something as a convenient excuse to shirk from their responsibility .We used to make visit to the old folks home and it broke our hearts to the old people sitting down there with lost and blank looks in their eyes .When we asked them how come they were there most would answer their children had no time for them. No time for your parents ? These people obviously think of nothing but themselves and have forgotten who brought them up and did everything for them , made sacrifices for them and went out of their way to see to their well being.They fail to value what their parents had done for them and now that they are old and helpless they just cast them away.Can we rate these kind of people? Can we give them even a little bit of respect ?
We talked to one young man at the kopitiam which we frequent and mum asked him a few personal questions like whom he stayed with and his salary etc.He told us he lived with his parents and he gave all his salary to his father and the father would then give him his pocket money .Mum said he is a rare breed as we seldom come across such young who showed such filial piety to his parents.During my time it was kind of obligatory for us to give part of our salary to our parents.That was mandatory as our parents said we owe it to them as they brought us up.We never argued over this and we always allocated a part of our salary for our parents.Today , parents are less demanding and we leave it to the children entirely.Most parents while they can like to be independent and not trouble the children.It is only when they are old and helpless that perhaps we may need to be looked after but then again .... We have to ditch the " If I am free " syndrome and really show our willingness to help those in need even if it means making sacrifices and going out of our way.That is putting other people's interest ahead of yours.We need to find the time and willingness to go out of our way for the sake of others.That is the kind of attitude which we ought to have but sadly enough few people have it and that is why we have people who are uncared for or abandoned because the people who matters have no time for them or fail to make time for them.

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