Success and failure

Steven Covey's "7 habits of successful people " makes for interesting reading.The book has been in the market for quite some time and we discussed it at length during my learning and training days.Going through his message, it boils down to a simple premise , that before anything can happen for the better we must make changes within ourselves.To do this , an honest self analysis needs to be done .Questions like ; What are my objectives  in life ? How am I going to achieve them? What are my strengths and weaknesses ? How to build on my strengths and improve on my weaknesses ?
To answer these questions and to be able to do something about them makes the difference between success and failure.
One would know about one's weaknesses surely as along the way there would have been people who have pointed them out to us in good faith.If you are proactive and sensitive you would think of how to handle these.I have noted that the are people who moan and groan about traffic jams.So ? Dont they realize that traffic jams are part and parcel of life in the city .Do they ever consider how pathetic their groans and moans seem to thinking people.? People of substance would think of how to cope with such a situation instead of moaning and groaning .If you expect pity or sympathy from people , forget it as they will only recognize how ineffective you are as a person.Life is about choices and we are blessed that we can make choices.What matters is if we know how .
Steven Covey made his point very clearly that successful people never let circumstances control them but they control the circumstances.I can give lots of examples but I feel it would be belaboring the obvious.
If you cant manage your personal life how can you manage the external forces which are part and parcel of your life ? Success comes with constant reminders , countless determination to improve and constant efforts to improve.We have our weaknesses >the difference between the successful person and the failure is the one recognizes them and keep on working to get rid of them whilst the failure just moan and groan and never bother to think of ways and means to improve.There is nothing so sickening as to tell someone something and watch him do nothing or even make an effort to consider what input has been given to him.