A freak accident

Sometimes things seem to happen for no apparent reason.I was back home early one day and spent some quality time with my grandson in the back room.We had planned to have dinner outside that evening and since that was the plan I decided to leave the office early .Mum was free and had nothing to do since the little fella was under my care.
Suddenly I heard  her calling me from outside and on coming out I saw her sitting on the chair somewhat dazed and it was only when she spoke that I realized what had happened.She told me " I crashed my car, whacked the gate and damaged your car ".Then I took a look and lo and behold her car was damaged , the auto gate was open and my car had a huge dent on it .I was speechless and my first thought was to see if anything happened to her.Thank God she was ok and then slowly when she calmed down I asked her what happened .
She said she wanted to reverse her car which was parked in the porch a little bit and suddenly she could not stop it and the car just crashed through the gate and that was what happened .probably she stepped on the accelerator instead of the brake and the car just kept on reversing and the more she panicked the more she accelerated .This is not uncommon as there were many cases of people stepping on the accelerator instead of the brakes in times of panic.Fortunately she was not hurt.
A human being can only do so much .On reflection one cannot help but wonder if she is doing too much and the stress and tiredness is taking its toll.To wash, cook , iron , clean and babysit is really beyond the means of any normal human being but she does all these without a murmur as to her there is nothing she would not do for her family.But there should be some kind of limits .That being so we sometimes fail to realize that the human body has its limits and things are taken for granted.
So much sacrifices have to be made and so much tiring chores have to be done all all for the sake of the family.Nothing is asked for in return as to a mother no sacrifice is too great .She has often mentioned that doing all the things she does is not a big deal and the only thing she asks for is a bit of consideration now and then like making efforts to come home one day in the week so that she can go out early instead of having to drive in the dark and ensuring that the others who depend on her too are taken care of.
There are times when young people have to focus on their careers .We understand that but surely if your work is flexible some kind of arrangement can be made on certain days ( not everyday ) of the week .It is nor right when one member of the family stresses herself out when the other one is happily ignorant or uncaring about his responsibilities.Coming home early and eating together saves a lot of trouble as she need not wait for the latecomer to finish his dinner ( at his own pace ) before she can wash the dishes .This is consideration >If I have to come home late everyday because of exigencies of service I would rather eat out than be a burden to everyone else.That is the difference between the caring and non caring person who only thinks of his own well being and seems to be in a world of his own without realizing there are others around him..
She felt bad about the damage to my car and even offered to pay for the repairs.I told her not to worry about that and I would never let her do that.To me , the fact that nothing happened to her is worth all the money in the world.The incident is an eye opener to everyone that we should not impose too much on any one person>Little things which we can do to help must be done.Whilst we all have our job the person who has a brighter career path must be given the opportunity to pursue her career whilst the other party should help out in the household chores.To see one party going out of the way to help whilst the other does nothing is quite annoying to say the least.As adults we need no be told to take our shower or to carry out the little tasks assigned to us .If you cannot be of help at least do not be a liability.After all it takes every member of the family to build a home.