Frailty of Life

Now and then we get an unexpected phone call during an unforeseen time and it really scares us.Two days ago mum got a call at around 930pm.I could hear from her voice that something was not right and it turned out to be so.One of her cousins complained of breathing difficulties and had to be sent to the hospital.He is 70 over years old and mum naturally was worried and immediately prepared to rush to the hospital.As it was that time of the night when my brain stops functioning we got our son in law to drive her there. Fortunately it was nothing serious but the message sent was clear ...for us oldies anything untoward happening can be serious because we are all in the zone of permanent departure.Most of the old people are prone to falls ( which can in most cases be serious ), heart attacks , collapse and etc.Never to be the ones who would leave giving our children headache and uncertainty, we are I believe well prepared .All our affairs are in order and I am in the midst of preparing a final letter to my children and grand children which they will read when I am not around.I was pondering as to whether it should be revealed now but then since I'm still around and can still say what I want to say it does not make sense right ? We would want our children and grandchildren to always think that we will be going to a better place where all the hassles of life need not be something to worry about anymore and there , hopefully will be some kind of legacy which we can leave behind for them to remember us by. Old people have no choice but to think of these things and be prepared so that the off springs are spared the unnecessary headache.Like it or not, these are the realities of life which one must accept.We would of course like to be around , to see the grandchildren grow up and just be with them and our children but life is unpredictable and to make it less so we have to be extra careful in our lifestyle . I have a good friend who accidentally hurt his toe and it became so bad that he nearly had to amputate it and this all because he was careless. Another friend slipped from a ladder whilst he was trying to change a light bulb in his house and till today is unable to play golf as his ribs still hurt when he moves his arms.There are so many cases of stroke, bed ridden, Parkinson , senility that its quite scary .When the time comes its best to go quick and not suffer or let your loved ones suffer. My poor sister was bed ridden for years as a result of a stroke and it was painful to see her deteriorating day by day.Finally when she went we all felt a sense of relief as that ended her suffering and that of her family. Fate, if you believe in it is there but not for us to know .We can only hope that Fate will be kind to us.