Principles

I have always believed that the principles which we believe in to a very large extent determine the way we act and make our decisions.People have died for the principles which they believed in.History is full of such examples.
On a more practical basis I have come across some of my younger friends who face unnecessary conflict because they dont abide by some basis principles like the man is the head of the family and any decision involving the family is best made together and discussed soberly and logically and when one party is able to present stronger arguments then the decision follows his or her line of thinking and the "loser" has to be gracious in " defeat".that is how you get decisions by consensus.The simple principle of discuss and agree goes a long way to nurturing successful relationships.
A man for example asks the opinion of the wife before he decides to go for a holiday with his friends.Upon her consent he proceeds to make the arrangements but half way through the wife says 'I dont think you should go" So what is going to happen? How would the guy feel? In the first instance he tries to follow the principle of discuss and agree and after that there is a breach of the agreement.Not only has he to cancel the trip with his friends but also face the fact that talking to his wife is pointless .Hence unnecessary conflict.
Successful relationships depends on discussing matters with each other and coming to an agreement and after that honor that agreement.Another example is when the wife decides to work in another town and telling the husband only after she has made that decision.Where is the respect for the husband? where is the discuss and agree or disagree principle?.What should the man do under such circumstances?
We need always to be guided by the principles which we live by and without such principles we are but people with no character or standards.