Compatibility

A couple has to be compatible in order to enjoy any meaningful or lasting relationship.In the olden days this was a simple matter as the Man who was the indisputable head of the family called the shots and the woman would obediently follow .Today , the scenario is different .Women are as good as the men or even better and are emancipated .They go through university , hold high positions and even earn more than the men so the days of the man dominating are over ..
This being the case a modern couple must complement each other and face each other on equal terms .I know of couples who wash and iron their own clothes and where the household chores are equally divided.t;But if one party cannot carry out his responsibilities then conflict arises and the question of compatibility arises too. In short mentally , physically , intellectually and emotionally the couple must be compatible. There is a a lot to be learned from the ancients who believed that the man must not be inferior to the woman in status as without this he will not get the respect which makes the woman look up to him.He is the man of the house and the running of the house basically depends on him .It is his responsibility to ensure that the family is taken care of and the wife's job is to support him.He is the leader in the house and is fondly referred to as " Loh Yea " .He has the personality and the qualities which qualify him to be the head of the house.
Today, sadly enough we see men falling short of thisThey do not have what it take to command the esteem and respect which rightly should be given to the head of the house;If you cannot even manage yourself how can you manage the house ?
Being head of the family brings about it responsibilities .Things like taking care of the financial needs of the family , supporting the wife and children , ensuring that the house is in good order are all responsibilities which any self respectable man should be able to carry out .He should be a source of strength and support for the family .He should never be a liability and a source of problems for the family.
Man has his weaknesses .But any man worthy of his salt will always seek to improve and ensure that the mistakes are not repeated. Ego , stubbornness and a continued repititon of the same bad habits will not lead to any improvement and will make compatibility difficult.When bad and annoying habits keep happening over and over again it will be difficult even for the most patient person to be tolerant.
Relationships are not made in Heaven .A sound and lasting relationship needs the involvement of both parties ;If one is gung ho and the other a deadwood then compatibility becomes an issue.and a problem.
Being considerate and sensitive to the living environment will make  for better relationship..In a lasting relationship communicating and sharing ideas and opinions  make for good positive vibes but if one party is not up to the level of the other and does not even know how to listen or pretend to listen then there is a breakdown in communication which will eventually affect the relationship.
Marriage and choosing a life partner is an important choice for anyone and if you choose the wrong partner it can make life's journey so much more difficult.

Babysitting

This week mom is in China , daughter and son in law in Melbourne leaving Aaron all to me. Looking after him is an excellent opportunity to bond with him but it is also stressful.His weekened routine is golf, tae kwon do , swimming and badminton.Whilst he is at it you cant do anything and your time is blocked for him.
Seeing to his breakfast, lunch and dinner are tough jobs so I take the easy way out by letting him choose.His choice has ranged from noodles , nasi lemak to Japanese.Controlling his time is another challenging task. To be able to get him to take his shower , control his TV and I pad time are daunting tasks but somehow with the proper carrot dangling I managed to get him to follow instructions.On the whole I would say he is obedient and talking sense to him makes the tasks easier.
It so happened that he had to fall sick during my shift>I was a bit panicky when he complained of chest pains ,coughing and loss of appetite.And it had to happen on Labour Day which is a public holiday .There were no clinics open in our area so I had to take him to Subang Baru where it so happened our regular doctor was working.It was a relief when the doctor said there was nothing serious about his condition.I must say the little fella is an angel when it comes to taking his medicine .Probably he also wants to get well .
School days are a torture.The poor fella has to wake up at 545am and gets ready for school .The car comes to pick him at 630 so for 45 minutes I have to ensure that he has his shower , all his school things are there , breakfast .So far we have followed the schedule well and he is always ready when the car comes. On school days he will be back by around 6 so I give him an hour of relaxation either playing with the I pad or watching his favorite TV show.then its shower and dinner .If he has home work then he spends an hour doing it and if not I just let him do what he wants.Its bed time before 9pm and he is knocked out within minutes when his head hits the pillow.
Its quite fun being with the little fella and I have to say that in all he is not a problem .Being with him for a week day and night has made me understand him more and what a schedule he has at this age .I feel sorry for him in a way that at such an early age he has to go through so many things .I just wonder how he is going to enjoy his childhood and whether we adults should  take a moment to reflect on what we putting our kids through .Very soon their childhood will be gone and sadly they may not be able to enjoy the childhood which we had when we were kids.